Saturday, November 30, 2013

Thanksgiving Budgeting

I don't particularly budget for holidays like Thanksgiving.  Usually we just cook a big dinner and eat a lot of leftovers.

Last year we took a vacation instead of eating at home.  Our budget this year was much lower.

Last year's approximate budget:
3 nights in a hotel in Carlsbad (The Hilton Oceanfront Resort and Spa)
2 days at LEGOLAND
Associated food (lunches and a couple of dinners).  Gas.

This three day trip cost about $1000.

This year's approximate budget:
Pre-cooked meal from Fresh and Easy: $60 (about $30 more than it would cost if we cooked it ourselves).
Bagel breakfast this morning: $10
Possible burger lunch tomorrow - it's Sunday Sabbath: $30.

This year's fun: $70 more than a standard year.

The "fun" things we did this weekend (since we were not on vacation):
Thursday beach walk with a former coworker (free!)
Sleepover for my son (friend was here)
Lunch and walk with a friend (here): free!  (leftovers)

It was definitely more relaxing than traveling.  The tree is up, the leftovers are delicious.  I've spent quite a bit of time working on Christmas projects/ gifts.  Our family calendar came - I make one on Shutterfly.com, order 10, and give them as gifts.  This year, I copied last year's so I could keep the birthdates on there and not retype them.  At the last minute, I realized that I hadn't changed "2013" to "2014" on the cover.  So I caught that.

Apparently, what I DIDN'T catch was my son's birthdays - the calendar says they will be 7 and 1 next year.  Whoops.  Going to fix those manually.

Monday, November 25, 2013

Thanksgiving Week Menu

Well, I'm gonna be honest.  There's been a lot of frozen chicken nuggets, frozen pizza, and one-pot pasta in the last couple of weeks.  Spouse has had two trips in two weeks and I caught a second cold. The second trip was an "oh shit" on Monday when he realized his telecom on Wednesday was not a telecom.  It was, in fact, an in person review on the East Coast. So in addition to all that, the baby has been teething...he finally got #15 and #16 is taking WAY too long to come out.  I'm going to get a break after this right?  Please say yes.  After all, there are only 20.

I did finally get healthy enough to get my flu shot yesterday, so yay me!  The pharmacist at the drug store suggested I aim for August or September next time.  I tried for October this year but had bronchitis.

Anyway, on to Thanksgiving week!

Over the weekend I used 5 weeks worth of CSA carrots to make a big pot of ginger carrot soup.  It's about 3-4 nights worth of soup (half done).  I roasted a bunch of eggplant and zucchini as a side dish.  I made my favorite Mediterranean chickpeas and rice, but in the rice cooker instead of the pressure cooker.  I have a problem with burning this stuff in the pressure cooker.  I made caponata (wait, that may have been last weekend).

So this week is chickpeas and rice, carrot soup, lots of salad with salami and cheese. 

Thursday's menu:
Roast turkey breast
Sausage and cornbread stuffing
Brussels sprouts with bacon
Butternut squash risotto
Pumpkin pie
Mashed potato casserole (aka, heart attack on a plate)
Chocolate peanut butter pie

Now, you're probably thinking "what a great list of homemade deliciousness!"  And in a normal year, you'd be right.  Except for the occasional trip east to visit family (or last year's impromptu trip to LEGOLAND), we cook dinner every Thanksgiving.  In the past, this has included huge numbers of people (up to 14 in student housing, with our one-butt kitchen).

But this year, we are ordering dinner from Fresh and Easy.  But we are making the potato casserole and chocolate peanut butter pie ourselves, so that's something.  We just didn't have the energy for a huge to-do this year.

I'll leave you with a couple of photos from our Sunday Sabbath.




Monday, November 11, 2013

My first "Sabbath"

So this was the weekend where I tried to institute a "Sabbath".  A day (mostly) off from chores, and a day for fun.

On one hand, this means all chores end up squished into one day.  On the other hand, I just did fewer chores.

On Saturday, I baked bread.  This is huge people!!  I don't have time to bake bread when I have a baby/ toddler.  Until age 3, cooking is dicey.  I made Moroccan lentil soup to go with it, and it's a pressure cooker recipe (you can find it on my "favorite recipes" tab).  I was going to have salad too, but didn't feel like it, so the lettuce is still unwashed in the fridge.  (Maybe for dinner tonight??)

This bread is sage-apple bread based on a yeast bread recipe by Mark Bittman.  A friend brought it to a housewarming party last weekend and I demanded the recipe.


On Sunday, I consider cooking to be a chore (well, cooking with kids around), so we had Teriyaki chicken in the crockpot, rice in the rice  cooker, and steamed broccoli in the microwave.

Teriyaki chicken dinner:
~3 lbs chicken breast: $5.71
80% of a jar of teriyaki marinade: $1.60
2 cloves garlic: $0.10
grated fresh ginger: $0.10
Total for chicken: $7.51
This is about 9 servings, give or take. $0.84 per serving

1 cup uncooked rice (cooked): $0.19 (6 servings) = $0.03 per serving.

12 oz broccoli: $1.50 (5 servings): $0.30 per serving

We celebrated our "Sabbath" by going on a 6 mile/ 3 hour hike with the kiddos.  It was fun but at one point we lost the trail (well, you cross a creekbed many times.  This time of year, it's dry.  So you get lost for a little bit trying to find the trail).  Anyway, I stepped off a rock onto what looked like solid ground.  Eh, not so much, it was quicksand.  Here are a few photos from the hike.






And...there may have been McDonald's for lunch after, and I may have split a hot fudge sundae with the boys.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

The Blue Zones

I have been wanting to read this book The Blue Zones for awhile.  I am not sure why I didn't just run out and buy it, except - well, I don't do that anymore. I will put books on my wish list for Christmas.  I will read books on my Kindle (usually free ones).  And we don't have any book stores anymore.

So last week while I was down and out with bronchitis, I paid $5 for the Kindle version and read it in a few days.  It was very fascinating and worth the read.  I also went to the website and checked to see what my "age" is.  Turns out: 41.  I remember the days when  my lifestyle had me a good 5-10 years under my real age, and now it's only two.  This is not surprising with the amount of stress that I am under, the lack of time for exercise and cooking, and the "still carrying around 30 lbs of baby weight" status.

There are many things I learned from the book that I will be trying to incorporate into my life (again, and for the first time):

1.  Beans.  One of the things that most of the Blue Zones had in common were beans.  Fava beans, pinto beans, other beans.  Most Blue Zone areas are bean eaters.  I had gone a little on the "Paleo" wagon a couple of years ago (but never full bore) and stopped eating as many beans.  Also, as I age, I find that I cannot eat as many carbohydrates and maintain my weight.  So my tendency has gone toward more chicken and fewer beans.

2.  Sleep. I have already been working on this.  I try to get 8 hours a night.

3.  Walking/ exercise.  Most of the Blue Zone areas get a lot of exercise.  Walking as part of daily life.  Gardening.  Few actually "work out" a lot - they just get more exercise in general.  And in Okinawa, one of the biggest things was just frequently getting up and down from the floor.  This is where being 43 with a toddler is a good thing.

4.  Meditation/ Yoga.  I have not really done this much yet.  But at my women's retreat weekend, I learned the importance of being able to meditate (and for me, I find Yoga to help with that.)  I want to start taking 15 minutes in the morning to stretch/ do Yoga, and meditate quietly in my room.  If only the kids didn't get up so damn early.  I also learned that knitters/ crocheters get meditation benefits because their minds go "blank" while they work.  So I pulled out my crocheting.

5.  Sabbath.  I am not particularly religious - religion serves a purpose much like meditation.  A "higher purpose".  One item that many religions put forth is the idea of a Sabbath - a rest day.  With two full time jobs and two kids, this is going to be tough.  But I am going to try it.  I am going to try and do all of the chores on one day, and set up the crockpot for one day on the weekend.  Just to enjoy family.

So what's happening this weekend:
1.  My husband is off at "Zombie Survival Camp" with the 7-year old.  It's kind of their "Sabbath".  I'm at  home doing laundry, cooking, taking the baby for his haircut, etc.
2.  Tomorrow we are going to either meet friends for dinner and to chill out, or have a very simple soup for dinner.
3.  I have been invited to a housewarming.  I would love to walk there (about a mile one way), but I'm not sure I'm physically up to it yet.
4.  Dinner tonight is bean burritos and tomorrow may be lentil soup.  Beans!!

Have you read the Blue Zones?  Do you meditate?  How do you reduce stress.  Do you want to try and live longer?

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Learning to Take Care of Yourself

So, it probably doesn't come as a surprise that I often take care of others before myself.

I have a husband, and kids, and I'm always trying to care for them.  Cooking meals, reading stories, packing lunches.

I have a full time job, and earlier this year is when I switched from part-time to full-time.  Because I felt that it was needed.  I had worked hard to build a team (hiring and training many people over the last few years, specifically 4 in the last year).  I felt that they needed more time with me.  I was planning a way to make it work.

And then, boom.  10 days after I went full time, my team was laid off.  A large part of my group, including 3 of the 4 people I'd hired and worked to train.  And it only got worse over the next few months.  It was kind of a slap in the face "thanks for all that work, but..." (especially since now we are short handed and THEY WANT TO HIRE PEOPLE BACK.  And they all have jobs!) 

So I decided to take a little time for myself and attend this women's rejuvenation weekend at the beach.  It was awesome.  Healthy cooking, yoga, stretching.  It would have been better if I hadn't been sick.  A little cold, I thought.  Which turned into...

the sickest I've been in a long time.  Bronchitis.  Dizziness.  I missed an entire week of work.  I have been napping 2-4 times per day.  I'm still not sure when I will be able to work a full day.  Wow, I cannot even explain it.  I am now on antibiotics and prednisone.  This morning I finished my second nap by about noon.  I've been feeling a little better this afternoon. Now, had I not been so stressed and overworked, would it have hit me as hard?  I can't really say.

But what I have learned is that I cannot take care of anyone else- if I don't take care of myself.  It seems like the last 9 months I've learned that my company doesn't really care about me anymore.  I mean, we are just numbers, commodities, not people.  I have been spending a LOT of my best time on them instead of myself or my family. 

Now, don't get me wrong.  I work.  I work for a paycheck.  I believe strongly in doing a good job and getting paid for it.  But that love, that drive for this startup company - it's pretty much gone.  I still want to see it succeed.  I still will do a good job.  But now my health, my family - has to come first.

Wish me luck.  I burned up a lot of PTO on sick time this week.

Sunday, October 6, 2013

Staying on track while eating out

I'm going to tell you a secret.  I don't eat out very much.

Okay, maybe that's not much of a secret.  I used to eat out a lot.  I gained weight, spent a lot of money, and had high blood pressure in my late 20s.

As a short, stocky, 40-something mother of two, I just don't have the metabolism (or the budget), for frequent eating out.  All my eating out budget goes to daycare.  Plus, have you ever tried to eat out at a restaurant with a toddler (age 1 to 4?)  Miserable.  Not fun.  For anybody.  They just want to run around.

But sometimes, you just gotta.  You are on vacation, on business travel.   You have to eat lunch with your coworkers for a going away lunch.  You want to go on a date with your husband.  How do you navigate?

Here's how I navigate:
salad, paleo, vegan, sandwich, smoothie, let loose

You have to balance your intake with "how much" you are eating out.  If you are training for a marathon, you can probably let loose a lot.

But if you are the average American?  Maybe not so much.

On the few times that I eat out, I try to be healthy, and I go through the list above.

1. Salad.  I pick this most often.  In Southern California, you can get a salad pretty much anywhere.  And because people like salad, it's generally good salad - not just iceberg or plain lettuce.  You can get main dish salads with protein, roasted vegetables, raw vegetables, beans...you name it.  And the best thing is that you actually get vegetables.  Now, you will always hear "beware the salad", and sure, if you are going to top it with croutons, ranch dressing, and lots of cheese, it can be a calorie bomb.  But if you get the dressing on the side and fill it with produce, you are on the right track.

2. Paleo.  A lot of times, your salad will also be paleo. I am not personally afraid of proteins on my salad.  Chicken, shrimp, eggs, beef - protein keeps me fuller longer.  But if you are at a place where you cannot get a decent salad - aim for something paleo.  Let's face it - some restaurants avoid fresh vegetables.  They are hard to store, go bad, and if you want them to last, you are buying them from somewhere that grows them for shelf life, not for taste.  Longer-living vegetables like hard squash, broccoli, and carrots can be your friend.  It is pretty easy to get a paleo meal at an American place (fish, steak, or chicken and a side of steamed vegetables), or a Chinese place (stir fry, hold the rice!)

3.  Vegan. I don't know about you, but there is something about rice, meat, and cheese together that just make life so delicious - whether it be a burrito or pizza, it's hard to say no to.  So that's why sometimes, you best option is something vegan.  This may be a bean and rice and salsa burrito, a vegetable taco, a tofu stir-fry, or a bean-based salad.

4. Sandwich.  Have you ever been rushing through an airport and desperate for something to take on the plane?  Enter the humble sandwich.  Even if you are eating at a restaurant, it can be a good bet.  Keep it simple with two slices of bread, a protein, and some vegetables.  I'm not going to tell you to leave off the cheese and mayo either.  If you pile it with tomatoes, lettuce, and onion, you are at least getting some produce.  But you have to leave it at the sandwich.  Unless you have fruit or a simple green salad as a side dish option, skip the side.  Mac salad, potato salad, or chips are not your friend here folks. 

I also loosely define "hamburger" as a sandwich.  If you are jonesing for a burger, by all means, have one.  But just the burger.  "Do you want fries with that?" The answer is no.

5. Smoothie.  This may be a California phenomenon, but there are smoothie bars everywhere here where you can get a few servings of fruits in a meal for about 350 calories.  Especially good on a hot day.

6.  Let loose.  Everyone has birthdays and anniversaries and special occasions.  As long as your special occasions are once a month?  Who cares, eat what you want.  Once in awhile, you just want to have a beer, eat some pizza, and dunk your hot wings in blue cheese dressing.

So what did I do this weekend?  We went out for breakfast.  I got a sandwich (a bagel), I only ate half of it, and I saved the other half for later.  My side dish?  Fruit.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Some Days I Look at my List and Just Sigh

Today is one of those days.

The "list" incorporates a few things:
1.  Cooking at least one big meal for lunch or dinner for the week.
2.  Washing and cutting any fruits we have for the week.
3.  Prepping our CSA vegetables that aren't necessarily going into the big meal.

Yesterday I did not do any cooking (I did make myself a sandwich for lunch).  I did spend a couple of hours sorting through baby clothes dropped off by two good friends.  This is a huge chore, but I definitely always say "yes" to free things.  It's worth the two hours to not have to buy clothing for a year or more for the little guy.

So that means today is all about cooking.  I have:

1.  Caramelized onions in the crockpot. New recipe.
2.  During nap time, I'm going to make Arabic rice and lentils (to go with the onions)
3.  I have green tomatoes, so this time I'm going to make green tomato salsa instead of what I did last year (relish).
4.  Slice up some watermelon.
5.  Wash lettuce and make a salad for th epotluck

I already deseeded 5 pomegranates.

Hopefully that will keep us going for the week!